Demi Lovato is one of the very few celebs who’s never been afraid to air her dirty laundry — heartbreaks, addiction, and mental health battles included. She’s openly discussed past flames, her status as non-binary (and previously changing her pronouns to “they/them”), and has shown nothing but love toward her ex-boyfriends — and girlfriends.
While you might only remember her headline-making relationships with Joe Jonas and Wilmer Valderrama, Demi’s love life has actually included way more interesting flings and low-key romances over the years.
So, let’s take a trip down memory lane and see who was lucky enough to date the superstar. Here’s a complete look at Demi Lovato’s dating history:
Who is Demi Lovato’s current partner?
Demi Lovato’s current partner is Jordan Lutes, a musician she met while working on her album. They’re now married, and this honestly seems like her healthiest and happiest era yet. More below!
FYI: Other than her official romances, this list also contains guys that Demi was *rumored* to be dating.
Demi Lovato’s Boyfriends (and a Girlfriend) Over the Years
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- Cody Linley
- Alex DeLeon
- Trace Cyrus
- Joe Jonas
- Wilmer Valderrama
- Odell Beckham Jr.
- Luke Rockhold
- Guilherme Vasconcelos
- Lauren Abedini
- Henry Levy
- Mike Johnson
- Austin Wilson
- Max Ehrich
- Noah Cyrus
- Jordan Lutes
Ex: Cody Linley
Who is He? Actor
Dated In: 2008
Demi’s first puppy love was with fellow Disney star Cody Linley. And let’s just say, their first date was a total disaster. Cody told Seventeen he was two hours late to pick Demi up; his car then broke down on the way to the restaurant, where Demi had to hold a flashlight for him to fix the car; then they made it to the steakhouse and he was late dropping Lovato back home. Yes… chaotic. After that nightmare of a date, it’s honestly not shocking their romance fizzled out not long after.
Ex: Alex DeLeon
Who is He? Singer
Dated In: 2008 – 2009
It was rumored that Demi and Alex had a brief fling, but according to a source close to them, things were complicated, mostly because their schedules were insanely hectic and they barely saw each other. Rumor has it one of Demi’s best songs, Catch Me, was inspired by this ex-boyfriend. Nothing like turning heartbreak into a hit.
Ex: Trace Cyrus
Who is He? Guitarist
Dated In: 2009
Yes, Miley Cyrus’ brother really did date Demi — very Disney-adjacent behavior. Demi dated Trace, who was four years older than her, in 2009, but their relationship only lasted seven months.
Like Alex, Trace was constantly on the road, and the distance definitely didn’t help. Eventually, Trace was the one who ended things, admitting it just wasn’t the right time for them. Their age gap also played a role: “She is a lot younger than me. When someone is that much younger, you’re looking for different things in relationships…”, he told People. Thankfully, there was no bad blood, and the two parted on good terms.
Ex: Joe Jonas
Who is He? Singer
Dated In: 2010
It feels like every female artist dated a Jonas Brother at some point. Joe dated Taylor Swift, Nick dated Miley Cyrus and Selena Gomez… and yes, Demi Lovato joined the list too.
After filming their Camp Rock movies together, Demi and Joe became super close, and fans were obsessed when their friendship turned romantic. Sadly, the relationship only lasted a few months. Joe ultimately ended things, saying: “Demi and I knew going into our romantic relationship that it may not be an easy one. It was my choice to breakup, but I love her as a friend.” Friend-zoned by your Camp Rock co-star? Pain.
Still, Demi handled it like a queen and even congratulated Joe and Sophie Turner on their engagement in 2017. Jump to 2025, and Demi reunited with Joe on stage.
Ex: Wilmer Valderrama
Who is He? Actor
Dated In: 2010-2016
Demi’s longest — and probably most serious — relationship was with That 70s Show actor Wilmer Valderrama. Demi was just 18 when she started dating 29-year-old Wilmer, and people definitely had opinions about their age gap. But despite the criticism, Demi seemed deeply in love and even called Wilmer her “rock.”
After six years together, Demi announced their breakup, explaining that they were “better off as friends” and “will always be supportive of one another.” In her documentary Simply Complicated, she later admitted that the breakup was incredibly hard and that it took her a long time to figure out who she was on her own.
Even so, Demi remained supportive and happy for Wilmer when he got engaged to model Amanda Pacheco — which honestly says a lot about her.
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Rumored Ex: Odell Beckham Jr.
Who is He? NFL star
Dated In: July 2016
After her intense, long-term relationship with Wilmer, Demi was briefly linked to NFL star Odell Beckham Jr. The two were spotted on a few dates, sparking rumors that Demi was in her rebound era — but nothing serious ever came from it publicly. A source told E! News that Odell was “aware” he may be a rebound, but didn’t care and was simply enjoying hanging out and getting to know the Let You Go singer. Sometimes, you just need a fun, no-strings-attached situation to move on.
Ex: Luke Rockhold
Who is He? UFC middleweight champion
Dated In: Aug 2016 – Jan 2017
Demi also casually dated MMA fighter Luke Rockhold in 2016 after they met while training at the same gym — very fit couple energy. Things even got serious enough for matching tattoos, which, at the time, felt like a flex. But clearly, the ink wasn’t enough to keep them together (talk about a tattoo gone wrong!). The pair seemed to be on completely different pages, and they ended up splitting just before Christmas in 2016.
Ex: Guilherme ”Bomba” Vasconcelos
Who is He? MMA fighter
Dated In: Jan – May 2017
Shortly after her split from one pro athlete, Demi moved on with another. Demi and the late Guilherme were spotted hanging out on New Year’s Eve and posted a bunch of cute pictures together: yep, soft launch vibes. Sadly, the fling didn’t last long, and the couple split in May 2017. A source told Us Weekly that Lovato and Vasconcelos were “just having fun” and she was “still looking to meet new guys.” Translation: it was never that serious.
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Rumored Ex: Lauren Abedini
Who is She? DJ
Dated In: Sep 2017
Yep! It’s rumored that Demi once had a girlfriend! After being open about her sexuality, Demi seemed very close with DJ Lauren Abedini in September 2017, and fans immediately started speculating. The pair were spotted holding hands in Disneyland — which, let’s be honest, is never subtle — and Lauren gushed about how amazing Demi’s new album was on Instagram. Whether this was just a bestie situation or something more remains unclear, but Demi confirmed she was very much single during an interview with Entertainment Tonight in October 2017. Soft launch denied.
Ex: Henry Levy
Who is He? Clothing designer
Dated In: Nov 2018 – March 2019
Henry and Demi shared a deeper bond than most of her other relationships, especially because they had both spent time in rehab several years earlier. He was a “sober companion” for Demi and helped keep her on the straight and narrow after she relapsed in 2018. It seemed like he was someone who truly understood her struggles on a personal level. However, the pair split before she entered rehab for mental health issues in 2019.
Ex: Mike Johnson
Who is He? Bachelorette contestant
Dated In: September 2019
After publicly crushing on The Bachelorette contestant Mike Johnson on Twitter (relatable behavior), Mike returned the energy by commenting on one of Demi’s bikini photos. Their flirty social media exchanges quickly turned into real-life dates. “Demi Lovato and I went on a date,” Johnson confirmed. Sadly, the romantic moment didn’t last. Just one month later, Mike openly asked out Keke Palmer, which basically confirmed things were over with Demi. Messy.
Ex: Austin Wilson
Who is He? Model
Dated In: Nov- Dec 2019
Demi’s relationship with long-time friend Austin Wilson was short but very public. She even made it Instagram official when they posted a cute mirror selfie together. You know it’s real when it hits the grid… But just one month later, Demi deleted all traces of Austin from her social media, which is basically the modern version of a breakup announcement. As always, she handled it with kindness and asked fans not to send him hate, explaining that he’s a good guy. Mature queen behavior.
Ex-Fiance: Max Ehrich
Who is He? Actor
Dated In: March – September 2020
Demi and Max Ehrich genuinely seemed like a fairytale couple until everything suddenly fell apart. The singer and Young and the Restless actor met just weeks before the Coronavirus lockdown, but their relationship moved fast while quarantining together. They made things official by appearing and dancing together in Justin Bieber and Ariana Grande’s Stuck With U video, and by July 2020, Demi announced their engagement.
Just two months later, it was over. A source told People, “It was a tough decision, but Demi and Max have decided to go their separate ways to focus on their respective careers. They have respect and love for one another and will always cherish the time they spent together.”
Rumored Ex: Noah Cyrus
Who is She? Singer
Dated In: July 2021
I mean, she has a type. Demi dated Miley Cyrus’ brother… and then was rumored to have hooked up with Miley’s sister. It was widely speculated that Demi and Noah Cyrus were more than friends after they were seen hanging out in recording studios and holding hands at Six Flags.
A source told Page Six that “their behavior during the recording sessions had people wondering whether they were more than just friends.” Even their dinner dates raised eyebrows. But according to E! News, “They are not exclusively dating by any means” and were merely “hanging out” and “enjoying each other’s company.” The pair unfollowed each other on Instagram less than two months later, which, in celebrity terms, says everything.
Husband: Jordan Lutes
Who is He? Musician
Dated In: August 2022 – Now
In August 2022, Demi stepped back into her lover-girl era and began dating musician Jordan Lutes. The two met while working on her song Substance, which he co-wrote, and their creative connection quickly turned into something more. Unlike many of her past relationships, this one felt calmer, more private, and genuinely healthy.
Demi and Jordan got engaged at the end of 2023 after a “personal and intimate proposal,” according to People. She wrote on Instagram, “I can’t believe I get to marry the love of my life.” The couple officially tied the knot in 2025 in a romantic California wedding surrounded by close friends and family. Demi later shared glimpses of the day, and fans couldn’t help but notice how genuinely happy and at peace she looked — proof that after everything, our girl finally got her happy ending.
Despite Demi’s complicated relationship history, it looks like she may have finally found her forever person in Jordan. After everything she’s been through, fans are hoping this is her real happy ending.
Which of these beaus do you think Demi is best suited to? Her husband, Jordan, or her longtime lover, Wilmer? Let me know by leaving a comment in the section below.
Originally published in May 2020.
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